Self-Assessment: Its Impact On How To Get Your Boyfriend To Want You Back

The moment a break up happen, most women tend to panic. The panic triggers  the ceaseless efforts to find ways and means on how to get your ex boyfriend to want you back or how to get your boyfriend to want you back. Sorry to say but it looks like a pitiful situation you are in. Of course you’re hurting and not a single world can exactly describe the anguish you are feeling right now. No amount of words can truly express the pain you’re going through.

 If it’s any consolation, many have gone before you and survived it and so do you. It’s not the end of the world and the world will not stop for you. There are numerous methods introduced, but there is one vital aspect that was taken for granted and is never emphasized. That facet may prove that you no longer need techniques on how to get your ex boyfriend to want you back or how to get your boyfriend to want you back.

You launch a self-assessment task to look deeper into your heart and soul. This is the one vital thing that most love advisers seem to neglect and not mention in their numerous techniques on how to get your boyfriend to want you back or how to get your ex boyfriend to want you back. In doing so, you are helping both you and him in dealing with the break up. You may be amazed at the things you will find out.

The self-assessment or reflection or soul searching is the process of deep critical analysis of yourself to find out your true emotions, motives and actions among others. You should ask yourself questions like do I still love him? Or I want him back because it’s the natural thing to do? Or is it because nature dictates that I need to have him because I can’t have him? Am I happy in my relationship with him? Do I truly want to be with him?

These are questions that you need to answer to be able to determine your true purpose in working on how to get your boyfriend to want you back.  When you do an in depth understanding of your feeling towards your boyfriend, you might end up learning things about your relationship and feelings towards him that you didn’t know existed. The worst thing that you can find out is you no longer love your boyfriend. When that happens, there is no use pursuing your efforts on how to get your ex boyfriend to want you back.

Before jumping into implementing techniques on how to get your ex boyfriend to want you back, you need to sit back and relax, it’s easier said than done but you have to. While at it, you let your mind be at peace even with the excruciating pain you’re feeling right now. Let it go, there is nothing you can do. You also need to acknowledge that the break up is real and accept it. Once you have accepted it you will have a more objective mind in looking back at your break up and your relationship with him.

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Coffee Connection

By: Camille Santos

Him

Here she comes – a regular customer – this time she’s got a backpack. I bet she’s bringing her leather-bound, dog-eared notebook again; she does so every other day. It’s hard not to notice her because she comes in during the afternoon when there aren’t many customers around, and besides, she always orders the same beverage – iced café mocha, double espresso – and sits at the same table every single time she comes here.

Her

Oh great! He’s behind the counter today. I’ve been looking forward to seeing him all week. I think he’s cool – I used to see him at school a year ago, I think he was taking up arts – but then he disappeared. I used to wonder where he went, because I think he is awesome, and it would be such a waste if he can’t complete his education – anyway. I found him here at the start of the new semester.
I better place my order now, though.

Him

Okay, here we go!
[Sighs]

I take her order. She goes to her usual seat at the far corner of the café. Something’s up with her today - her hair, maybe? Nah. I busy myself with preparing her drink. Business is quite slow today, though. No one has come in since lunchtime except her. Maybe it’s the weather.

Should I call out her name? Maybe – but hey, she looks busy. I wonder what she’s writing in that notebook. A poem? A story, perhaps? Or maybe she’s doodling in it, like I used to.

Okay. So maybe I should just approach her. Save her the trouble of fetching her drink from here.
[Chuckles uncomfortably]

Her

My goodness. Is it just me, or is he walking towards me with my drink in hand?
I should probably be concentrating on my writing. I. Must. Look. Casual.

I put my notebook down and pretend to flex my fingers a bit, which, I realized, is pathetic – I haven’t been doing a lot of writing since I sat on this stool a few minutes ago. In any case, he places my drink on table with a generic “here you go”.

Oh. He’s just being nice.

Him

And now I wait, hoping she comes across the note I have written on one of the table napkins.

Her

Seriously, what the heck?! I spilled some of my drink onto my notebook. I must look like a total klutz to that guy at the register – not that he’s looking at me or anything… but still.

Him

Okaaaaay… she spilled her drink.
[Clears throat]

Oh good, she’s grabbing some table napkins! I hope she won’t use the one I wrote my note on.

Her

Good thing he gave me lots of table napkins. He must’ve anticipated this – is he psychic or something?
[Smiles to herself]

I should write about this sometime. Psychic barista! He knows your orders before you place ‘em!

What’s this?

“You have skin woven from the fibers
Of shooting stars and a voice that
Sounds like iambic pentameter
Sonnets in the summertime.
You are beautiful.
Keep smiling.”

Him

Looks like she spotted my note. It’s a lame attempt at poetry, really. She’s looking around.
Look at me, look at me…

Her

He’s looking at me expectantly from behind the pastry display shelf.

Our eyes meet.

He smiles a sheepish, somewhat goofy smile.

Him

She raises her glass and smiles at me.